Being a Caregiver

Strength for Caring

You see, one of my missions in life is to remind myself and others perhaps to truly live their priorities. Yet it seems too many give lip service to one thing and say it's their priority but spend their time doing something else. (included myself..) :(

That’s why I am in awe of caregivers. I've known a few of them..myself too. However, I'm a multi-tasking kinda of person cos I am a fulltime goddess diva married with 3 beautiful munchkins, part-time teaching in childcare and relief caregiver to my bedridden mom who are suffering from stroke. Amazing? Impressed? hmmm...up to you bloggers.

Some of you might give up careers to be caregivers. Others do not, for instance myself, and valiantly strive to balance both. Nowadays, many move a parent into their home, or move in with them. Others equip a family room with wheelchairs and beds to give around-the-clock care. As for me, both of my parents moved in with me since 2005.  Dad is cardiaovascular patient and has to take medicines daily. For every 3 mths, I'll accompany him to our neighbourhood clinic for his regular check-up & blood tests.  Since Mom are totally disable, she needs us to clean her regularly, change diapers, shampoo hair and feeds through tube feeding.  With all those stated schedules, my/our “shift” doesn’t end.

I think until a person walks in the shoes of a caregiver, he or she cannot begin to comprehend the frustration, the anger, the helplessness that they feel some days. Yet in the midst of the hardest times, the caregiver's faithful, undying love prevails, setting an example that blesses the whole world.

Sometimes caregivers think, "How can anyone laugh at a time like this?" And yet often, laughter is the best medicine-for the caregiver. Studies show that laughter boosts our immune systems, lowers our blood pressure, and releases endorphins in the brain that make us happier and, indeed, healthier. This caregiver learned that lesson...much to her surprise!:))


I ever wondered, just how many family caregivers are out there? Where do they live? How many hours do they work? And, how much is that caregiving worth in terms of dollars? Do they have support from government bodies or nursing agencies? Do they have any financial, pyschical & emotional support from other family members? *ponder*

I am so thankful and grateful to Allah SWT for giving me an opportunity to make up the loss time with my mom and spend time with her as long as she breathe:(..............Although I couldnt understand sometimes what mom is uttering, I know that she just wanna some attention.  Or perhaps, she misses her other children who either didnt show up to visit or just dunt bother at all!!!  Apparrently, I dunt give a damn to my siblings as I believed that what comes around goes around..


The need is so great most days and I can never get it all done. I feel like as much as I give, it isn’t enough—it’s never enough. Yet remember, that everything we did makes a difference. No effort is too small. Everything we do matters more than we know.


Subhanallah!